Hey there, wonderful readers! It’s Louisa Loveluck, and today we’re diving into the subtle yet significant world of crush language.

When you don’t know where you stand with someone you like, dating can be hard. Men chase girls, but they won’t go all out unless they know she feels the same way.

The girl isn’t sure either, so she doesn’t want to say anything that could make things worse. There’s now a problem. What is the solution to this problem?

The solution is to pay attention because he will talk and act in a way that makes you know he wants to be more than friends. When a guy likes you, he remarks:

Words a Guy Always Says When He Has a Crush on You

A guy who is romantically interested in a girl might not say it outright, but a lot of the stuff he does say will have a hidden meaning. This is what guys say to women they like 22 times a day:

1. That Looks Good on You

For not paying attention to the finer details, men are notorious. Although, if he notices what you’re wearing, it means he’s thinking about how to make you feel good and impress you.

2. Do You Like Going to That Restaurant Often?

Say you’re talking to your girl friends casually about your dinner. He will pick up on your excitement and want to know if the restaurant is somewhere you like to go.

So that you won’t be let down when he finally does take you out on a date, he’s actually storing a list of places he knows you like.

 3. What Are Your Hobbies?

He wants to learn more about you right now because he thinks you’re attractive and likes your personality.

A person’s hobbies reveal a lot about their personality and what they are passionate about. He wants to know how he can be a part of other parts of your life.

4. What’s Your Family Time Like?

He’s started thinking about what the future will be like with you after hearing a question like this. Everyone knows that when you have a relationship with someone, you also have a relationship with their family.

So, getting the heads up ahead of time will help a guy decide if it’s worth taking things further.

5. There’s Something Different About You

A man of stature wants the best woman; he wants to be with someone he can admire and love.

He might not be able to put his finger on it right away, but he is feeling something he has never felt before when they know they have found someone special. Only “There’s something different about you” can he say to describe it.

6. We Should do This More Often

He enjoys your company, you match his energy, and you make him feel good when you’re together, so “We should do this more often” means those things. His way of saying, “I want to spend more time with you,” is a statement like this.

7. You Really Make me Laugh

We all enjoy a good belly laugh because it makes us feel good. Laughter is medicine for the soul. Someone who can make him laugh and not take herself too seriously is a woman he likes.

 8. I Haven’t Spoke About This Before

A man will open up to you if he likes you and feels safe trusting you. He says, “I trust you enough to give you a piece of my heart,” by letting you know that what he’s about to say to you is highly confidential.

9. If You Need Me, I’m Here For You

If you’re going through a rough patch, he wants to show you that you can rely on him.

He’s giving you something you can use if you need it, even though you may not be going through anything rough when he says it.

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10. You Get on my Last Nerve

He’s not being serious; he’s teasing you, even though I know this doesn’t sound like a compliment. It’s likely that he’ll say it with a smile.

Guys never outgrow the teasing girl stage. Even as adults, they still call each other names on the playground. Don’t take it the wrong way, then. He’s teasing you, which is flattering.

11. I Love Your Smile

He not only thinks that your smile lights up a room, but he has also spent a lot of time looking at your lips and fantasizing about kissing them. It’s not as simple as saying, “I love your smile.”

12. Do You Have a Boyfriend?

This is a straightforward and loaded question. He’s asking immediately if you are taken because the guy likes you.

13. Tell me More About Yourself

When a guy wants to know more about you, instead of asking you many intrusive questions, he’ll put the ball in your court and ask you to tell him about yourself. 

14. You’re Really Pretty

We all know that guys like looking at beautiful women because they are visual creatures. They may see 20 beautiful women as they go about their day, but that’s all they’ll see.

Then, because he wants her to know that he’s noticed her, they’ll tell the woman they’re crushing on that they’re beautiful.

15. If You Were my Girlfriend

Let’s say you received flowers from the man for your excellent work. In a teasing tone, he’ll say something like, “You deserve it, and if we were dating, I’d buy you flowers all the time.” This is a strategy used by depressed guys to let you know they’re thinking about starting a relationship with you.

16. Wear my Sweater

The weather was nice enough to wear a t-shirt when you left the house to meet up with your guy friend, but it started to get cool after a while.

When you start shivering or say you’re cold, he’ll offer you his sweater, even if he’s only wearing a t-shirt underneath. Guys take great pride in protecting their women.

17. You Understand me

Guys are frequently misunderstood, especially by women, whether it’s due to social stereotypes or rough guys. They enjoy it when they meet a girl with whom they can be themselves without worrying about what other people will think.

He’ll want to spend a lot more time with the woman who underlies him.

18. Let me Sit Next to You

Men like to keep to themselves, and when they want a woman, they want every other guy to know, so they ignore her. He’ll let you know that he wants to sit next to you on a group night out to a restaurant or theatre to mark his territory.

19. What’s Your Favorite Meal?

Everyone enjoys a good meal, so whether you’re going to a restaurant or he’s planning a meal for you, he’ll want to know what you like to eat so he can make it for you.

20. Can I Get Anything For You?

He will offer to buy you something at the store if he is on his way to yours. I don’t just want to see you; I want to make sure you’re comfortable, so it’s a kind gesture that says that.

21. He Has a Nickname For You

As a term of endearment, sex expert and author Ian Kerner states that romantic partners call each other pet names. The way that men show their love for each other is through nicknames.

Many parents give their kids nicknames, and siblings call each other by nicknames.

When their partner calls them by their first name, some couples, he says, know that something is wrong in their relationship. Your crush has a soft spot for you, so if he’s given you a nickname, it means that.

22. I Appreciate You

Knowing what is good in your life and feeling grateful for it are two powerful emotions. A person receives something for which they are thankful.

People who express gratitude tend to be happier with their lives, according to research that links gratitude to deeper happiness. So don’t take it lightly when your crush says he appreciates you; he’s telling you that you make his life better and that he’s glad you’re a part of it.

He will have a long list of things he appreciates you for, such as listening to him, helping him believe in himself, making him laugh, or the cheese toasties you make for him when he comes over.

He’s probably thinking about having a relationship with you if he appreciates and values you.

How do Guys Act Around Their Crush?

If everyone just laid out their cards on the table and made it clear what they wanted, dating would be much simpler.

But life doesn’t work like that, and men, in particular, tend to play it cool when they find a woman attractive because they don’t want to think too highly of themselves and be let down.

What ever the case, there are some clear signs that a guy really likes you.

1. He Pays Attention When You Speak

Because he finds you interesting, not just because he likes the sound of your voice, he will hold on to every word you say.

By repeating what you say, he will show you that he is paying attention. He may call you later to talk about what you talked about in greater detail.

2. He Leans Towards You

Women know when a man is interested in them because he will face her directly while they talk. He will try to keep other people from getting to you by turning his torso toward you in a group.

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This is his way of saying that he likes you, whether you’re by yourself or in a group. If you watch men’s body language, you’ll learn a lot.

Even in a situation where a man is speaking to a group of women. The girl his torso is facing is the one he’s interested in, even though they aren’t talking directly.

3. He Preens Himself

Men feel emotions when they are with women. To ensure he looks as good as possible, he will preen himself. By tying his tie, undoing the top button of his shirt, fluffing his suit, or pulling up his socks, he will change his appearance.

To ensure his hair is in place, he might run his fingers through it several times. He might also be seen looking at himself in the mirror.

4. He’ll Fiddle With His Drink

One of the subtle signs that he wants to touch you is that he is messing with his drink. If it’s a wine glass, you may see him running his fingers along the stem while making circles around the top of the glass.

5. He Wants Your Approval

Women can give a man validation about his looks, dress sense, etc. all day. However, unless the woman he wants to date gives her approval, it means nothing to him.

Showing your approval is a good sign that you like him. Men don’t like to beg for compliments, so he won’t ask you directly if you think he looks good.

Instead, he’ll say something like, “I need to take a shower because I got a new haircut today,” to see how you react.

6. He Mirrors You

When someone copies your body language, voice tone, or speech patterns, this is called mirroring. On a deep level, when we like someone, we act like them.

If you and he are sitting across from each other at a table and both have a cup of coffee, he will take a sip of his every time you do. He will stroke your face if you rub it, and he will raise your voice tone if you do the same.

In a sitting position, he will cross his legs over yours. In a standing position, he will do the same. Yes, I think you get it.

7. He is Always Helping You

Men don’t use words to express their emotions; they use actions. Helping you with things all the time is a strong sign that a guy likes you.

If you casually say that your light bulb needs to be changed, he’ll tell you that he’ll be over to do it. He’ll offer to wash your car if he sees that it’s dirty.

In the event that you meet while shopping, he will offer to carry your bags. In short, he likes you more when he does things for you.

8. He Will Sound Excited

Men who are mentally aroused and excited will change the tone of their voice more as they talk. He will sound more expressive than usual.

He talks like this all the time, so you might not notice at first. But pay attention when he’s talking to other people—if his tone changes, it means they don’t affect him the same way.

If you notice that his voice suddenly gets deeper when he’s talking to you, it’s likely because he realized he was sounding too excited and is now trying to play it cool.

9. He Licks His Lips

When speaking to attractive women, heterosexual men exhibit significant sign changes in their saliva, according to a study from the University of Chicago.

This series of changes is called “the courtship response.” The presence of a beautiful woman raises testosterone levels, which makes your mouth water. To start licking his lips is his natural response.

10. He Calls You Drunk

Going out with too much alcohol makes you brave and sure of yourself in ways you wouldn’t normally feel. Guys who like a girl will often want to say many things to her but don’t because they’re afraid of what she might think.

He suddenly transforms into Superman when he’s drunk, though, and starts opening up to you. The wonderful thing about alcohol is that you can act as if you don’t remember saying any of the things the person you spoke to is reminding you of.

In order to get you to respond the way he wants you to if he’s unsure of how you feel about him, he’ll call you drunk and confess his undying love for you. He’ll play dumb when you question him about it if you don’t.

11. He Doesn’t Mention Other Women

You should feel safe around a serious guy if he wants to improve his chances of getting with you. This will be done by not talking about women.

Because that’s his way of letting you know not to expect anything more than a one-night stand or two, if he were a player, he wouldn’t mind staring at attractive females in front of you or talking about the women he’s slept with.

But a man who is only interested in dating one woman will let the woman he is only interested in know by not talking about other girls.

You might say, “She’s really pretty,” if you’re watching a movie with a hot woman on screen. A possible answer would be “not as pretty as you.” He’s really trying to say that he only wants you.

12. He Complains That He Can’t Find the Right One  

Not dating because he says he can’t find the right woman. He won’t say bad things about the women he’s talked to, but he will express his dissatisfaction.

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He might even take it to the point of saying, “At this rate, I doubt I’ll ever get married.” His way of letting you know that he wants a wife, not just a playmate.

However, he won’t say it directly, he will continue to say things that make you sound like the perfect woman for him.

It’s his way of trying to get you to understand what he’s saying by complimenting your personality, looks, and goals.

13. He Remembers Random Things About You

He always thinks about you, so he remembers strange things about you. He could be at the gym and suddenly think about how much he hates leg day.

After his work out, he’ll text you a joke saying something like, “I had a great leg work out today, sorry you can’t say the same (laughing emoji).

How Do You Tell if a Guy is Trying to Hide That He Likes You?

A man may try to hide the fact that he likes you for varied reasons. He may be worried about rejection, insecure and think you don’t like him, or he wants to make sure you’re into him before he makes a move.

Pay a little more attention to your guy friend if you suspect that he likes you. If you notice any of these subtle signs, he’s probably trying to hide the fact that he likes you.

1 You Catch Him Staring at You

A man may stare because of an underlying sexual motivation, according to research. When men see sexual images they find enticing, their pupils dilate. The tiny details can tell us a lot at times.

They also spend a lot of time admiring a woman when they find her attractive. In addition, men are interested in the breast and hip area because it shows them if the woman can have children.

Take a look at their pupils, ladies, if you want to know if a guy likes you. To find out, look at how big they are.

2 He Talks Too Much

A clear sign that someone isn’t being truthful, in the opinion of retired FBI agent Robin Dreeke, is that they talk a lot and what they say is very thin.

Someone is trying to hide what they want to say. He probably wants to say that he thinks you’re hot, but he keeps it to himself and waffles on about unimportant things that you probably don’t care about.

3 He Sends Mixed Messages

When they aren’t sure about a woman or when they really like her, many guys send mixed messages.

Assuming he has a crush on you, these mixed messages are because he is slightly emotionally immature and can’t fully control his feelings around you, so every once in a while he will let it slip that he wants to be more than friends with you. He pulls back and overdoes the friend zone act when he realizes what he’s doing.

He wants to be sure before he makes a fool of himself, and the reason he’s doing this is that he’s not sure if you like him as much as he likes you.

4 He Gets Jealous

Some men are emotionally immature, as I’ve already mentioned, and they find it hard to hide their feelings. If you’re hanging out and one of your male friends calls, for instance, you may notice him becoming jealous.

He might start acting strangely after you hang up the phone and start asking you questions about your friend. He feels threatened by the other men in your life and wants a closer relationship with you, which is why he is jealous.

5 He Tries to be More Masculine

Have you ever noticed how a group of men start acting when there’s a pretty woman around? Men believe that all women want hyper-masculine men.

They act way too manly because they think it will make her like them more. If he’s sitting down, your guy might deepen his voice tone, spread out his legs and arms to take up more space, or talk about his accomplishments.

This guy is trying hard to hide how he feels about you, but a lot of what he does is automatic and he can’t help it.

6 He Puts His Phone Away

We’re all hooked on our phones, even if we don’t want to admit it. As soon as it rings, we check it, even if we’re in a meeting or talking to someone.

It might not be a bad habit to check your phone every two seconds, but it’s still not cool. Anything going on behind this screen is more important than you, it says.

To stop yourself from doing this, you have to choose not to. Trust me, it’s not because he has something to hide if you notice that his phone is out of sight when he’s with you.

He wants to give you his undivided attention, and this is his way of letting you know how important you are to him.

7 He Gives You Longer Hugs

A simple greeting or a sign of love, acceptance, and support can both be expressed through hugging. Hugging feels good for everyone, but when a guy likes a girl, his hugs are more special.

You might feel like you’re being suffocated if he gives you a strong hug, pulls you close, and squeezes you tight. But to him, every second of having you in his arms is priceless.

He’ll probably close his eyes as his mind wanders and imagines what it would be like to hold you forever. He wants to be your protector and comforter, so he uses his body language to tell you that.

8 He Fidgets

People who aren’t sure of themselves will fumble around when they’re with a woman they like. While doing everything he can to hide the fact that he likes you, he will literally have a meltdown right in front of you.

He might twiddle his fingers, bite his nails, move around a lot when he doesn’t need to, or pick imaginary objects off his clothes.

9 Touching Him Makes Him Flinch

He’ll flinch if you innocently brush past him or touch his arm while you’re talking.

He’s flinching because he never thought you’d touch him, and he’s really excited about it. He might change his facial expression, and he’ll probably turn right red.

10 He Smiles a Lot

A man smiles when he likes a woman, but it can also mean other things. He’s smiling because you make him feel good, whether it’s a large or shy smile.

It’s even more of a sign that he’s interested if you catch him looking at you and he smiles before looking away.


If your guy friend has a crush on you, when you read this article, you probably had several “a-ha” moments as you remembered times when he said and acted in a certain way

Remember, decoding crush language isn’t an exact science, and everyone expresses their feelings differently.

It’s essential to consider the overall context and his body language along with the words he uses.

So, the next time you find yourself wondering if a guy has a crush on you, pay attention to these words – they might just reveal his hidden affection. Happy decoding, lovelies! 💖🗣️

By Louisa Loveluck

Hey there! I'm Louisa Loveluck, your trusted relationship advisor with over 7 years of experience. You might've caught my insights on relationships and more in Huffington Post UK. Thousands have already found guidance in my articles. Dive in for a transformative journey in understanding and navigating the complexities of relationships.