Hello, fabulous readers! It’s Louisa Loveluck, and today we’re diving into a topic that many of us may have pondered at some point – the allure of older men.
Why are older men attracted to me? When they find themselves looking at the guy with the silver fox hair, a lot of younger girls ask this question.
It’s a valid question because society subtly tells us we should date people our age.
There are, however, a number of reasons why you might be attracted to older men, including daddy issues, financial security, and the belief that older men are more likely to work on a relationship.
Unfortunately, there is a stigma associated with younger women dating older men, so people will stare at you when you’re with your significant other or the shop assistant will say, “Well, I’m sure your dad won’t mind.”
In reality, though, you can’t let social pressures decide how you live your life—if you do, you’ll never be happy. So don’t listen to the haters; date whoever you want.
The ten reasons you’re attracted to older men in the mean time.
Is It Normal To Be Attracted To Older Guys?
There’s nothing wrong with younger women dating older men, even though they get judged, hated, and made fun of for it.
Things were like that back in the Victorian era, many years ago. A lot of men married younger women.
According to studies, women who are of childbearing age look for men who are eight to ten years older than them because they think those men are more likely to want to settle down and be able to support a family.
The only reason why women who date older men worry about it is because of how society thinks about women. Some women are labeled as golddiggers who are only with the guy for his money, even if they are in a loving and respectful relationship with him.
When it comes to celebrity couples, older men are labeled as perverts, but there seems to be a different standard. No one gives George and Amal Clooney, who are seventeen years apart in age, a second thought.
No one likes the average Joes, but they get praise! Anyhow, don’t worry about your preference for older men; stop focusing on what other people say and date whoever you’re attracted to. Life is too short!
10 Reasons Why You Are Attracted To Older Guys
There are many reasons why you might be attracted to older men besides their looks.
They are more likely to work on the relationship if you have problems with your dad or if you want to feel safe in your finances. Learn why you’re attracted to older men by continuing reading.
1. You’ve Got Daddy Issues
Psychologists say that women who like older men may have trouble relating to men who they see as father figures. You didn’t have a father figure when you were a child, or he didn’t give you the love and attention you needed.
You may have had a very close relationship with your father, and you’re looking for that kind of connection in a partner. When discussing the idea of the “father complex,” the late psychologist Sigmund Freud was the first to bring up the “daddy issues” phenomenon.
There were two types of it: the “Oedipus complex” and the “Electra complex.” When a young boy competes with his father for his father’s attention, he experiences the Oedipus complex.
When young girls compete with their father for his attention, they experience the Electra complex. Both theories claim that both complexes should end by age five and start at age three.
In adult relationships, these complexes can be a problem if they are not noticed and treated by a psychologist. In order to recreate the relationship between a father and daughter, women are attracted to older men.
2. You Want Financial Security
You are more likely to find financial security in an older relationship if you are looking for it.
Perhaps you’ve been in too many relationships with men your age who can’t afford to take you to McDonald’s, let alone take care of a family.
Women typically look for financially stable men not so they can buy the newest Gucci sandals, but to ensure they can take care of a family if they decide to settle down.
Younger men also don’t want to get married until they are financially stable because they know their place in society and what is expected of them at the dinner table.
3. They Are More Likely To Work On The Relationship
Older men understand that love is not a physical sensation. They know that excitement you feel at the start of a relationship doesn’t last. When the chemistry wears off, most people end things.
An older man, however, is willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work because he has most likely experienced this and understands that love isn’t just feelings but must be nurtured and developed.
Think of love like this: for something to grow, it needs to be exposed to pressure and resistance. That often manifests itself in a relationship as conflict; what you as a man age must overcome, rather than the ferocity of the fireworks in your stomach, strengthens your relationship.
4. They Are Experienced
For older men, life is full of experiences; they’ve been there, done that, and worn that t-shirt. They’ve traveled and enjoyed learning about the vast variety of cultures.
That many relationships mean they know what works and what doesn’t. Older men have experienced their fair share of setbacks and understand that things don’t always go their way and that life isn’t always easy.
It is simpler to have a meaningful relationship with them because of their maturity level.
5. They Don’t Play Games
There’s no need for you to be concerned about playing games with an older man. You know how it goes when you’re dating that hot young guy who likely has 25 other options besides you.
You play a game called “how long do I wait before I text him back?” Who will make the initial call? How many times a day is actually too many to text?
If he chases me, I’ll ignore him for a few days. That’s not something older men have time for.
Firstly, they know all the games and how to spot girls who are playing them. Second, they understand that life is short; they have lived the majority of their lives and won’t waste any more time playing games.
If they feel like a woman, they will tell her and make her feel safe and comfortable enough so she won’t need to play games.
6. You Like The Silver Fox Look
Seriously, some older men are just hot! Consider actors like Brad Pitt, George Clooney, and Denzel Washington.
They become more and more alluring as they age, and they have a magnetic quality that makes them just about impossible to resist. Silver foxes are a rare breed of fox with silver hair that is smart, athletic, and beautiful.
The people in this world who are like George Clooney are accurately described. According to a Match.com poll, 72% of women are attracted to men who have gray hair.
They said that gray hair is a sign of strength and maturity.
7. They Are More Respectful
Usually, you won’t hear an older man bragging about having sexual encounters with their friends. To feel like a man in front of their friends, younger men do this.
As soon as they have slept with you, they are on the group chat the moment they arrive home, bragging about how they made you orgasm ten times, even though he only lasted two minutes.
You won’t need to worry about your private moments being broadcast all over town because older men get tired of this bravado.
8. They Are Good In Bed
Because they’ve done it a lot of times, older men know how to work it between the sheets. They know just how to make their women happy, which they love.
With an older guy, you won’t have any shaky or awkward moments in bed. Now, that’s not to say he’s slept with a lot of women; his sexual prowess is just a result of the years he’s had to hone his abilities.
He has failed many times during this time, so he knows what works and what doesn’t. Plus, older men can take criticism in a healthy way.
It would be better if you told them something in the bedroom that you didn’t like. This guy wants to make sure he gets it right, so being honest with him won’t hurt his pride like it would with a younger man.
9. You Are Rebelling Against Your Parents
Do you have strict parents who won’t let you date men, even older men? Are they the authoritarian type who run your life in every way?
If so, one way to secretly rebel against them is to date someone who you know will make your parents crazy. And they would punish you for all time if they caught you.
The thrill of secretly getting back at your parents for being so strict is more important to the rebellious female when dating older men.
10. You Want To Date A Man With Money
Some guys your age might spoil you if you like nice things in life. Older single men want to date pretty young women, and one way to do so is to spend a lot of money.
It’s not uncommon for them to buy her expensive gifts and take their love interest on vacation to fancy restaurants.
You want a sugar daddy type of relationship where you both understand how things work between you and are comfortable with it.
What Does It Mean If You Like Older Men?
That means you like older men. Hating older men is not a bad thing, despite what most people think.
There aren’t many women whose older partners are counting down the days until his funeral so they can get his money.
They are with their significant other because they are attracted to him, he has a wonderful personality, and they enjoy being in a relationship with him, just like any other person in a relationship with someone of a similar age.
However, if you’ve been messed around by younger men, your attraction to older men may be because experience has taught you that older men are more mature and willing to settle down.
How Do You Attract Older Men?
Attracting older men isn’t hard; if you’re attractive to men in general, you’re already ten steps ahead of the game. Although we know that getting his attention is one thing, keeping it is another.
The good news is that you can keep his attention by doing things like making sure you look good, acting your age, and not playing games.
Men are attracted to beauty, research suggests. Now, this doesn’t mean you need to walk like a cat like a model, but you should try to look good.
Wear perfume that smells great, and ensure that your hair is in great shape to highlight your best features.
Use these tips to improve the way you look:
1. Wear Red
Because it triggers a man’s primal nature, research shows that red makes you look instantly more attractive.
2. Accentuate Your Hips
Shĭria sang, “The hips don’t lie!” Wear figure-hugging clothes that highlight your hips because men love a nice pair of hips on a woman.
3. Fix Your Posture
You sloucher? A good posture shows that you are at ease at the table and confident. By lifting your chin, pushing your shoulders back, and straightening your spine, you can stand up straight.
4. Become Intentional About Smiling
Smiling more doesn’t mean you have to walk around with a perpetually cheesy grin on your face, but it does make you look more attractive.
Doctor Jess Carbino says that smiling can help people lower their guard. Smiling stimulates the release of the feel-good hormones endorphins, so when someone sees you smiling, they also smile.
If you’re with older men, smile more, and they’ll be more likely to talk to you.
5. Use Open Body Language
With our body language, we say more than we do with our words.
You can usually control what you say, but because body language is an unconscious response, you’ll frequently give the game a way if you’re not confident in what you’re saying.
Two things happen when you have open body language: it makes you look more confident and approachable. The person who wants to talk to you can’t get close if you stand with your arms folded in front of you.
Crossed legs while sitting can come across as aggressive and defensive; it’s a sign that whoever is speaking to you should hurry up and finish their sentence because you’re not interested in what they have to say.
On the other hand, open body language, such as longer eye contact, is a sign that a person is interested in what the other person has to say.
Tilting the head to one side and showing the neck shows you are at ease in your surroundings.
6. Don’t Act Your Age
Because that would make it hard to get comfortable in your relationship, I’m not saying you should change who you are.
You can’t put him in the same category as your female friends and act like a drunken fool on a night out, though, because older men are more mature. Just set a more relaxed tone when you’re with your older guy.
If he’s giving off those vibes, there may be times when it’s acceptable to act wild. They are, however, much more quiet most of the time. Listen more instead of talking as well.
The majority of people lack the skill of listening. Are you the type to keep talking over people when they’re talking for no reason? If so, stop saying that when speaking to an older man; it shows your age.
7. Don’t Play Games
Older men don’t have time to play games, so if they suspect you are, they’ll quickly move on to the next one. If he likes you, he will not only tell you, he will also show you.
There will be no question in your mind that you are the only one he wants. Dating an older man will be different than dating a younger man.
You almost have to play games with younger men because they are so easily distracted. Their testosterone levels are so high that they think about other women all the time.
Playing games will get you dumped faster than a hot potato when you first start dating a silver fox.
8. Act Confidently
It’s a huge turnoff when a woman doesn’t value herself and seeks approval from men to feel worthy. Men, in general, do not like insecure women. An insecure woman is off-putting for a variety of reasons, including:
- To keep complimenting her to make sure you feel safe, it puts too much pressure on the man.
- Women who feel insecure are too emotional and make the relationship hard. They start fighting in the grocery store if they think their man has been looking at another woman for too long. They get upset over everything, especially if their partner has female friends. When their boyfriend hangs out with his friends, they start fighting…
- Men are afraid that an insecure woman will quickly look for validation from another man if she doesn’t feel it from her partner.
9. Don’t Act Like a Golddigger
As you’ve read, one of the stereotypes surrounding women dating older men is that they are using them for financial gain. Unless this is the type of relationship a man seeks, he will be suspicious of your intentions.
For his peace of mind and to prevent nosy eyes from making the gold digger accusation, he would prefer to date a woman who has her stuff together.
Don’t act like a gold digger; don’t ask him for money or expect him to buy you gifts. And every once in a while, offer to pay when you go out.
Show him that you’re capable of looking after yourself by talking about your job, and let him know if you live alone or with roommates.
10. Ask Him For Advice
Because it’s one way he’ll be more attracted to you, don’t ask for advice about silly things you know you can take care of yourself just.
When you need to make important life decisions, however, ask. That way, you show him that you value and respect his opinion.
Additionally, it triggers the hero instinct; men are biologically wired to want to protect and provide for their women, and when they can do this, they are more likely to stay in a relationship because it makes them feel needed.
You see, it’s a bit of a catch-22 with men; you can’t be too independent because that puts them off, but you also can’t be too dependent because that turns them off.
When a woman who is independent needs him to do things for her, however, it turns a man on.
So, my lovely readers, age might just be a number, but the charm of older men? That’s a feel-good story we can’t help but root for. Cheers to the fabulous journey of attraction! 🚀💖